A woman is on her death bed. For years her husband had been discouraged from touching or opening the shoe box she kept on the top shelf of their closet. Before dying she asked him to bring the box to her. Inside was $25,000 in cash and one crocheted doily.
When asked about the doily, she explained that her mother had given her advice when she first got married. She was encouraged to crochet a doily when she got mad rather that blowing up. Her husband smiled with delight. What a joy that she had only gotten upset once.
He now understood the doily, but what about the cash? Her answer was:
"That's the money I made selling doilies."
A funny story, but a good point. The Bible speaks to this.
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Psalm 15:1
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.